I was going to start this post last night but I was just so incredibly exasperated that I just couldn’t see myself through a coherent and non-rage filled rant of a post so here we are today a little more calm and mildly less aggravated than I was last night.
First off to start on a good note my younger 2 started school last week and have settled in beautifully, my youngest started grade 1 and to see him blossom and just vibrate with enthusiasm this past week has been an incredibly wonderful thing to behold, I know that we made the right decision by choosing to put our youngest into a tutor centre instead of a public school, his class and the school itself is not too big and not too small and the environment is so incredibly supportive and welcoming I cannot wait to see him and my other son grow this year.
Now onto the not so great part of my post and of course this pertains to my eldest son, so of course my son was supposed to still be at the treatment centre until the end of this month and if you have read my previous post you will know that we had to get an emergency order to have removed from the centre due to negligence and assault and I did officially receive a letter from the department of social development stating that a formal investigation is underway and we have of course also reported a case to the police and this is also underway.
In the interim our social work has been instructed to find a new and decent placement because apparently there are plenty of those the information is just not freely available… I remain sceptical but in the meantime we are supposed to be navigating through his grade 7 year and I have been struggling with the department for 6 months trying in vain to find a solution because private schooling is not an option and as much as I am an advocate for home-schooling in the right circumstances we just cannot give enough time and care with both households working and other children who also need and deserve attention, it also lacks the social interaction needed to help our son through his issues, schooling with a facilitator which is what we were hoping for; it lended itself to controlled socialisation as well as an education.
It got to the point where our psychologist actually got into the car and drove out to the department himself this week because he could not get through to anyone, he had a meeting there and then called me to tell me about it, he also told me that they were not enthusiastic about our case and they were not willing to look at a schooling option even with a facilitator which quite honestly made my blood boil, I then received an email last night confirming a meeting time and that the meeting would be to discuss home-schooling.
I am sorry but what about both households working and it not being a viable option for me to leave my 12 year old Aspergers among other things son at home alone to navigate his own education do you not understand.
I am just so beyond my level of acceptance at this point, I have always been the mom who says its ok, the mom who would rather remove my child from the situation, the mom who has gone through every therapy both medical and alternative, every diet, who has followed the whim and instruction of every school, doctor and specialist I am just beyond pissed that there are children whose parents to be frank couldn’t give a flying hoot and children who couldn’t care less who are younger than my son who are drinking, smoking, having sex etc and they can be in school but not my son nope nada nope home-schooling is your only option it honestly just feels like they are saying well he has 3 more years to go until he is no longer our problem and schooling is no longer a legal requirement so you can just fuck off until then please and thank you.
This year I started off with a mind to change my mind set to look forward and stay positive I also set my mind to change the way I deal with things and to stop just saying its ok I understand to everything because that is what I do its ok I understand I will find something else, do something else every single time and I cannot anymore’, why should I, why should we?
If we had gotten the help and support we needed years ago we would most likely not be dealing with all of this but here we sit with nothing but apologies and excuses and I am quite frankly done and tired.
I responded with my concerns stating that if home-schooling is their own option that I hope they are ready with viable solutions to navigate the issues that I have brought forward and to be honest if they don’t or won’t help us in this regard I am going to take it further from a legal stand point and if I have to tell our story to all and sundry to get the help and attention we need then so be it but I am done with the lack of resources and support and I know it is not just our family, I am not going to stay quiet anymore…
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